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Happy Saturday, Something For The Weekend readers,
I can’t write this week without mentioning Valentine’s Day, seeing as it’s next week. Some people consider it a shallow commercial construct, but I know many enjoy celebrating it.
If you are in the latter camp and like to make an extra special effort once a year, go for it! But I encourage you to think of gifts or experiences which last longer than just the evening itself, in memory if not in material substance. Couples who reminisce together about hot past times, keep their current sex life more passionate. So create, bank, and then use those memories.
How? If you’re going out for a lavish dinner, is there a way to link it back to a previous hot experience – by what you wear, where you go, what you talk about? And assuming you have a great evening, how can you help the memories become something you talk about throughout the year going forward? Keep a serviette or business card from the restaurant, take some photos and get the best printed up, treat yourself to a half-year-Valentine’s at the same venue on August 14th…
Or, if you’re wearing something special, don’t just save it for February 14, wear it other times too. The same goes for other gifts such a jewellery or sex toys – make sure they get used. A lovely V-day gift for someone with a vulva is Victory Oil – get a discount by using my link by clicking here (it’s one of only two brands I am an affiliate for). Offer to apply it through a sensual intimate massage, too…
As you’ll know if you’re a regular reader, I personally believe that the best gifts we can give are our presence, our ongoing curiosity about our partner’s pleasure, and our own commitment to show up as our most authentic selves.
Commit some time to reading a new book about sex or listening to a podcast and discussing it. Go for a drink or coffee having each prepared a list to share: three things you love most and want more of in your sex life, and one thing you’d rather press pause on. Write a love note of what you appreciate the most about your partner in bed and leave it where they will find it.
If you want to go deeper into this process, my Connection Playbook For Couples and accompanying video will guide you. Whether you’ve been together for years or weeks, the exercises adapt to where you’re at. Go on a journey of learning together and write your unique roadmap for more satisfying sex together. I’ve taken ten per cent off the Playbook and video for Valentine’s, starting today for a week. Find it by clicking here.
Solo? The longest sexual relationship we ever have is with ourselves. Nourish it. When did you last try a different masturbation technique, or watch an erotic film, or read an arousing novel? What limiting mindsets do you have that you could look to upgrade, by finding positive role models, for example around age? [I was listed on ‘Young & Oversharing’ on Substack as a positive ‘older woman’ role model recently, which feels great!] We don’t have to wait until we have a partner to nourish our sexual life.
Whichever approach you choose, and whether you link it to Valentines or not, I hope it brings you plenty of pleasure in the coming week and beyond.
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Ruth
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